You can change your inner dialogue. You can rewrite the narrative in your mind. You don't have to submit to the way you've always told yourself the story.

When you feel like your day is unraveling or you've been hard on yourself for whatever reason, "giving yourself grace" is giving yourself the kindness that you deserve. The very thing that I would often tell my tribe or my closest friends if they were being overly critical of themselves. So, why is it so damn hard for me to do the same for myself?

When a workaholic such as myself is told to give me some grace or to not be hard on myself, all I hear is "let it go" which is sometimes hard for me to do when my mind is fixed on something. It goes against my natural instinct which is to keep working my ass off even when I don't feel like it or like my mama would say, "burning the midnight oil".

Aside from being a creative, I have always pushed myself, being willing to go without for the sake of my friends, business, or career. I would attribute my overall happiness, success, and well-being to the number of hours of labor that I put on myself. If things are continuing to go well then I must be doing something right. If they aren't going well or as I planned, then I become overly critical of myself. And I start to think that I must suck at this whole entrepreneur or career thing.

Can we do everything right? No. Are we perfect? No. But we want to be. This is where we would give ourselves that grace that I was talking about. Yet, most of us choose not to.

So how about instead of choosing to count our (L)s, how about changing our narratives and begin to recite things like:

  • Please don't be so hard on yourself

  • You're doing the best you can right now, and that's what matters

  • Let's work on our priorities

  • What would you say to your best friends if they were going through this

What does giving yourself grace mean to you? Comment below.

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